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發表於 2012-4-25 22:08:35
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Good point !! listening skill is important and useful. Listening makes our loved ones feel worthy, appreciated, interesting, and respected. Also it is impossible to avoid conflicts when dealing with other people. Good listening skill can help a lot to avoid conflicts.
Here is some tips for being a good listener:
1. Face the speaker. show your attentiveness through body language.
2. Maintain eye contact, to the degree that you all remain comfortable.
3. Minimize external distractions. Turn off the TV. Put down your book or magazine.
4. Respond appropriately to show that you understand. Murmur (“uh-huh” and “um-hmm”) and nod. Raise your eyebrows.
5. Focus solely on what the speaker is saying. Try not to think about what you are going to say next. The conversation will follow a logical flow after the speaker makes her point.
6. Minimize internal distractions. If your own thoughts keep horning in, simply let them go and continuously re-focus your attention on the speaker, much as you would during meditation.
7. Keep an open mind. Wait until the speaker is finished before deciding that you disagree. Try not to make assumptions about what the speaker is thinking. |
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